A long-term relationship is like a never-ending tennis match.
There are two players, you and your girlfriend, and the goal is scoring as many points as you can against your partner. Every time you score a point, your girl loves you more. Every time she scores a point, she loves you less.
But there’s a caveat: you can’t win, no matter how many points you score, but you can lose if she scores too many points.
The goal in this match then is to keep as much advantage as possible.
If you become a skilled player you’ll always respond to her shots in a relaxed manner and will focus on having fun. Thanks to the big advantage you got, you know you have ample space to f*ck up, unlike unskilled players who are always walking on eggshells.
So how do you score points?
You score points with good game:
- Entering the relationship with a masculine frame (seduction first, commitment later)
- Being able to physically lift her in your arms with ease
- Passing her shit tests with flying colors
- Giving her orgasms / ‘gina tingles
- Getting her to do everything you want in bed (every new thing is one more point)
- Getting her to wear what you want (obviously not in a domineering way, but to please you)
- Bossing her around and she complying out of satisfaction to please her man
- Being unfazed with money matters
She scores points by getting you to f*ck up:
- Trying to establish a feminine frame in the relationship
- Trying to boss you around
- Trying to lower your status by asking you to hold her purse
- Trying to disturb your emotional stability on purpose
- Trying to get you jealous
Of course, you can f*ck up yourself and score points in her favor:
- Becoming paranoid that she’ll cheat on you (lowering your own status)
- Becoming jealous when really nothing is going on (raising the other guy’s status)
- Being toxic in general
- Not enforcing boundaries
- Crying in front of her
- Opening up and sharing your fears and other emotions with her
There are times where you’ll end up giving a bad shot and your girl will take advantage of it, throwing you out of balance and gaining ground. When she throws you a brutal backhand shot, you’ll see yourself scrambling hard to get the ball back in play. If you’re too dogmatic, wanting to respond only to nice, clean shots all the time, you’ll end up losing the point.
Of course, she’ll only get aggressive if you let her believe she can scare you and win with an aggressive strategy. If you are skilled enough to deflect back all her shots with ease and focus on having fun, you’ll both have a great time playing.
If on the other hand she’s more skilled than you and she’s not benevolent, it means she’s out to crush you. This is what man eaters are like. They enjoy destroying a good man with potential. Avoid playing with those you are not skilled enough (yet) to defend against.
While you shouldn’t be paranoid about man eaters, you would do well by remembering she IS playing in order to score points to YOU. Don’t forget and think she’s playing just for fun’s sake.
Announcement: I’m gonna start adding extra mini guides to my paid products and will increase prices as I deem fit when considerable material has been added (free for everyone who already purchased of course!, if you haven’t bought my books, buy now to avoid all price hikes and get all upcoming mini guides for free).
The first mini guide I’ll add will be called “How to get out of the hole” and it’ll be related to money. I’ll add it to “The Game of Casual Dating” because it relates to the content in chapter #2 (Becoming a high-value man). It’ll talk about how to het out of the “hole” of financial ruin, a step-by-step guide of sorts to getting in good shape financially where you have a good career, no debt, 1 year of emergency fund and are in perfect shape to start a side business. Pretty much impossible to feel down with that setup. Looking forward to it! it’s a topic I really like writing about.
Here are my books, in case you haven’t bought them yet:
My first book, “The Game of Casual Dating” is a guide that will teach you how to go from getting 0 girls to meeting, dating and sleeping with girls you find attractive by building a solid foundation of social skills. No rehearsed lines, no deceiving, no sketchy tricks. Just pure skill and female psychology knowledge. You can buy it Here.
My second book, “The Art of Building Highly Addictive Relationships” is a guide that will teach you which girls are worth keeping around and how to build relationships with them in which they can’t get enough of you. You can buy it Here.
“Introvert Game” is a guide that will help you attain a deeper understanding of your personality as an introvert and figuring out how to seduce women by playing to your strengths rather than trying to swim upstream using guides designed for extroverts. You can buy it Here.
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