Every relationship has a reacher and a settler, that is, someone who dates up and someone who dates down. The reacher “reaches” a higher level, so it’s the one dating up. This means this is the one lucky to be in the relationship. The settler “settles”, so it’s the one dating down. There’s no such […]
Relationships
Handling drama
Picture this: your best friend from college just arrived in town and asked you if you want to meet up for drinks. You say hell yes while wrapping up the last assignment of the day before heading off into the weekend. While texting with your girl, you casually mention your excitement over meeting up your […]
Journey to Become a Dominant Man
For the majority of my life, I had not been a dominant man. It’s not that I was shy or anything like that, dominance just didn’t felt right for me. I’m more of the philosophy of “Live and let live” AKA if you mess up, that’s your own damn fault. But through my 20s (I’m […]
Temporary Girlfriends And Their Benefits
Temporary girlfriends are girls who seem promising when you meet them, but after an extensive vetting process you determine they are not wife material. Except by the cases where guys marry their first girlfriend, most of us have had temporary girlfriends even if the vetting process was not intentional. The vetting process itself is an […]
Why trying to save girls is a bad idea
We have all seen a girl who is hell bent on changing a guy. This is so common that it has turned into a meme: the girl falls in love with some guy who excites her but has no future, he earns minimum wage and is content with it, no aspirations of getting a degree […]
Dealing with pregnancy scares
Whenever something worries me, I put on paper the positive scenario and the negative scenario. I calculate the odds of each scenario happening, and then I write down the concrete steps I would take to fix the worst-case scenario. This process gives me tranquility first because it shows me that the negative scenario is much […]