Welcome Player! Hope you enjoyed the festivities with your loved ones.
We’ll start 2022 looking into one of the intermediate topics: if you’re spending your 20s building yourself it means you’ll have a packed schedule, so how do you find time to get better with girls, let alone date them once they’re interested?
The first step is always your inner game. In your 20s your priority should be earning money, putting in 60-80 hours a week is not uncommon for high-achievers. You also have to make sure you stay in shape (not debatable, it helps you both to earn more money and with getting girls). This leaves girls in the last spot, meaning you’ll focus on getting better with them/dating them when you have *free time*.
I always say “dating” (or pickup/daygame) is a Hobby and this is why. First you focus on fixing your life (A.K.A. attaining value) but since you won’t be working 100% of the time, you can relax with this productive hobby.
2) Go out 2x a week [max]
Now that we understand that picking up girls is just a hobby during our 20s, we know that we won’t be going out daily. I suggest you go out 2x a week: thursday (4 hours, 8 pm to midnight) and saturday (6 hours, 8 pm to 2 am). The idea is that thursday is a “light day” meaning you won’t party heavily or get too drunk, it’s a perfect day for first dates or to meet up with a girl from your rotation just for sex. Saturday is prime time, so it’s perfect to pickup girls using nightgame (or daygame if you prefer going out earlier), partying or for dates with girls that are behaving well and putting out. Yes, it’s ok to stay past 2:00 am since most likely you won’t see negative effects for diminished sleep once in a while during your 20s if you sleep well the rest of the days.
Going out 10 hours a week won’t stop you from attaining your goals. On the contrary, if one of your goals is managing people you’ll need social skills and this is how you develop them.
3) Managing the rotation
I recommend you maintain a rotation of 3 girls max. At the height of my packed schedule I could barely see 1 girl every week, but I was nearing a bit more than 80 hours/week of financial pursuits, so if your schedule is lighter 3 should be perfectly fine.
I’ve found that it’s difficult to keep up with more than 3 girls, even with a normie schedule of 40 hours/week. The most girls I’ve juggled were 5 and it was absolutely tiresome, there was so much going on that I started making mistakes and dropping my performance.
To stay consistent with the section above, I would date 2 girls every week: whoever is not on her period or ovulating (I recommend you download apps that track girls’ periods for this purpose).
Of course, if you have a girlfriend instead of a rotation simply see her 1-2x a week.
It’s relatively easy to fit girls in a high-achiever’s schedule with the blueprint above, I know because that’s how I organized my schedule the last 5 years: career (40 hours) + side business (40 hours) + gym (~10-12 hours) + going out (10 hours) + 8 hours of sleep every night. If you want to see all the details of this schedule and an example of how to achieve it using google calendar, you can see it in The Game of Casual Dating section 2.
New readers: My first book, “The Game of Casual Dating” is a guide that will teach you how to go from getting 0 girls to meeting, dating and sleeping with girls you find attractive by building a solid foundation of social skills. No rehearsed lines, no deceiving, no sketchy tricks. Just pure skill and female psychology knowledge. You can buy it Here. My second book, “The Art of Building Highly Addictive Relationships” is a guide that will teach you which girls are worth keeping around and how to build relationships with them in which they can’t get enough of you. You can buy it Here.
Photo Credits: Mitchell Hollander