How Men Fall In Love
Men fall in love via acts of service.
But contrary to popular belief, we don’t fall in love with a girl who does acts of service for us and gives us everything we want, rather it’s when WE do acts of service for HER that we fall under her spell.
How come? are we dumb or something?
Not necessarily. Being men, we have nothing intrinsically valuable about us unlike women who can get pregnant (if 99% of males die, 1% of men can impregnate all remaining girls in no time, while if 99% of females die, we get a bottle neck of production in newborns. Without newborns our species goes extinct), so our biggest contribution and source of pride is derived from what we DO.
You have two guys but one decided to sleep the whole evening and the other decided to go for a hunt and successfully retrieved a nice meal for his family. The former has nothing to be proud about since he did nothing, while the latter can feel joy, pride and satisfaction that he did the hard thing for the people that matter the most to him (his family).
This is an immediate rewards example, but think of how this applies to long-term pursuits. The guy who has been waking up at 6 AM everyday for a year to go train at the gym has been putting in effort (AKA acts of service) for someone he deems worthy of his sweat: himself. It’s not uncommon that guys who stick with the gym develop confidence, self respect and self love that simply wasn’t there before.
This principle applies to everything men do: think about every businessman who started from scratch and now calls his business “my baby”. Think about every artist who has fond memories of every one of his paintings. In the end, there is no greater source of joy for men that THE PATH. I’ve written about this before in my article “The Pleasure Of Consistency“
We fall in love with whatever we choose to put effort in.
This of course, applies to women too, the more acts of service you do for her, the more you’ll fall in love with her. It’s simply how people (not only men) are wired, think about the concept of letting her invest in you, same principles.
How To Avoid Falling For The Wrong Girl
Simps are dumb because they chose to put effort into dating a girl who doesn’t want to date them, so they keep falling harder for her while she keeps putting more and more hurdles in front of them.
To avoid this situation, make sure that the girl actually likes you first (by getting her into bed and confirm genuine desire) and THEN you can start thinking if this girl is worth putting in real effort.
Girls read the acts of service part and immediately conclude “Oh, that means I have to make his life hard and continually say no, that way I’m forcing him to put in more effort so he falls in love with me”.
That may work for 30+ year old simps with a good, stable job who feel fortunate to score a date with a 30+ year old girl they had a crush back in high school. But readers of this blog know that a girl who keeps putting hurdles is a girl that doesn’t feel genuine desire for you.
Why the f*ck would you give up bachelorhood and increase by 3X your cost of living for a girl that doesn’t break a her rules for you?
Only a truly dumb man would do so. Confirm genuine desire first and THEN consider if she’s worthy of your acts of service.
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