This is a guest post by Train Your Wife (@PUA on twitter) who writes about improvement for married men, how to revive your marriage and training your girl.
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How To Brainwash Your Girl With Your Ideas
We all have ideas that we want our partner to take on – be it sexual, financial, health, or otherwise.
Maybe you want to move to the city and your girl loves farm life. If you’re ever going to get into a high-rise apartment, you are going to have to guide her through the process.
Share an idea, let her normalize it, then start taking steps forward.
Too much too soon and you’ll scare her – but done the right way, you can lead her anywhere you want to go.
As an example, let’s walk through how you could introduce disciplinary spanking to your girlfriend. Spanking can be easy and fun to implement, creates a clear dominant/submissive dynamic, and has several level of intensity you can step through over time.
Break the Ice
There are several options for how and when to introduce spanking. For you, the clear choice might be during sex – give her booty a solid slap – or maybe it’s simply when you walk past her in the kitchen.
The first time you do it, she might be shocked. Don’t fret. The first time is shocking, the second time is not unexpected, the third and fourth time are normal.
When you spank her bottom and she playfully responds or wiggles her bottom waiting for another slap – congratulations – you have received a green light.
She is comfortable and ready to come along for the ride.
It’s up to you to guide her to the destination.
Set a Deadline
Once you have established that it is acceptable and expected that you slap her bottom, find the appropriate time to push things a bit further.
Wait for a moment when she makes a mistake or has bad behavior – perhaps after she spilled her milk at the dinner table – then tell her that she is naughty and you are going to give her a proper spanking tonight (or tomorrow).
Get Agreement
When she spills her milk at the dinner table and you playfully say “You are so bad. I am going to give you a spanking tonight.”, she could react in several different ways.
Her response could be:
– Positive: “You are right, I am a bad girl” with a big smile
– Positive: “Ok sweetie” with a smirk
– Neutral: “Ok yeah sure” with with a questioning look
– Negative: “You are so gross” with disgust
The further you are down this scale, the less excited she is.
If she seems disgusted, you have foundational work to do and you’ll want to go easy on her tonight – You don’t want to totally back down, but trying to force an activity when she is not comfortable could result in an argument rather than a sexy discipline session.
Anticipation
Giving her time to think about it helps her normalize the idea and get excited about it. Maybe it’s a few hours between dinner and bedtime, maybe it’s an entire day.
Whatever the case, she will think about it. She will get excited and wonder – are you man enough to do what you say you will do?
For your part, you do not need to bring the topic up again until it is time.
Show Me the Money
Whatever the case, whether she gave a big green light or seemed disgusted, stick to your deadline. If you said you were going to spank her tonight, then you better spank her tonight or risk losing any ground you have gained – she is counting on you to be the man and follow through.
Be sure to give yourself plenty of time.
– If she’s laying in bed, tell her to roll over. Give her a few swats.
– If you’re going for real discipline, get a chair and tell her “come here.”
– If the situation presents, start fucking her then roll her over and spank her.
Whatever the case, remind her “this is because you are naughty, because you spilled your milk.”
Dancing in the Moment
Reality is, she isn’t going to spill her milk. You have to learn to look for opportunities and dance in the moment. Find moments to hold her wrist, moments to smack her bottom, moments to compliment her, moments to discipline her.
The more opportunities you look for, the more opportunities you will find.
The possibilities for your relationship are endless. You have to learn to dance in the moment and work with what is presented to you. Take advantage of situations and roll things in your favor.
Creating a New Normal
As we have all experienced over the last several years, it does not take long for a new way of life to be accepted as normal. This same concept applies to your relationship. Get the ball rolling, keep the momentum going, and create the relationship you want.
Once is shocking. Twice in not unexpected. Thrice is a new normal.
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