Writing the first guest post ever on the blog, here’s The Seduction Devil‘s guide to building Social Capital at a new venue:
I keep repeating this:
ALWAYS GIVE VALUE.
Be a value giver.
As a High Value man, it’s you who’s in ABUNDANCE.
Your cup is full (in fact, it’s overflowing) with beautiful women, fun friends, richer opportunities and happiness.
And being the generous person you are, you’re just pouring all that extra into other people.
That’s the mindset I want you to lead from.
Your inner state:
We all know how important your “inner state” is.
Always leave your home feeling like a million dollars.
Once you’re out on the street:
- Greet a few people
- Genuinely compliment a stranger and be on your way
This is a POWERFUL confidence booster.
Once you’re feeling GREAT about yourself, you’re now ready to transfer that state onto others.
1. The Staff
If you’re new to a bar/club and want to build social capital, you’re best bet will always be:
Befriending the staff.
Imagine it’s your first date with a pretty girl, you walk inside the cafe and they’ve already got your regular prepared.
Here’s how you can do that:
– Greet the waiter/bartender- Ask for food recommendations- Order and tip RIGHT after (important)
When you’re leaving, small-talk with him and jokingly tell him to be your wingman when you get a girl there next time.
2. The Regulars
If you’re new to a city, check out some good bars and clubs in your area ALONE.
On the first few days, simply observe:
The regularsThe social linchpins The one’s who’d benefit you the most
These are the guys you want to befriend.
If they end up next to you on the counter, just smile and say hello.
Remember the value equation:
Compliment, offer advice, maybe you overheard them saying something, share your opinion, etc.
If you’re at a club and dancing, simply move closer to them.
Socializing in ridiculously easy in places like these.
You can bring your friends too, introduce each other.
Being the social linchpin yourself gives you MASSIVE value.
Just be a fun guy, be the source of good emotions and you’ll be good.
That’s how you can build social proof and pre-selection a.k.a “social capital” at any venue.
Thank you for reading.
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Photo Credits: Edgar Chaparro