As previously defined in the 1-10 attractiveness scale, a girl who is a 7 is universally considered cute.
She has either a thin body with a cute face or a hot body with an ugly face. If she was fat she would be a 5 or lower, if she was thin and had an ugly face she would be a 6, and if she had both a beautiful face and a hot body she would be an 8. 9s+ are models and actresses.
The main goal of my account, blog and books has been teaching guys how to go from getting 0 girls to start dating 7s because that’s the point where dating starts being fun.
I’m gonna be real honest here and tell you that I started from the very bottom. Sure, my high school girlfriend was a 7 but that was sheer luck and accidental social circle game. Once I started to date intentionally and actually learn how all of this works, the best I was getting was 3s, 4s, 5s and let me tell you, it was depressing.
Eventually I got to the point of dating 6s and it got a bit better, at least the girls were not a huge mess. But it was once I got to the point of dating 7s that the “heavy heart” feeling started to go away. Nowadays I’m in a happy LTR with an amazing 8 (always keep growing!), but man, if you go through a similar journey, you never forget the first 7 you get thanks to game.
Not that specific girl but rather the feeling of accomplishment and realization that dating beautiful girls is not something fundamentally denied to you… you simply sucked at this particular skill this whole time. The “skill” word implying that it’s something you can LEARN.
So, with that being said, how do you actually start dating 7s?
How To Start Dating 7s
Dating has two parts: value and game.
You can see it as how good is your product and how many sales you actually make. If you’re not getting the results you want, then you have to improve one or both of these two areas, no way around it.
So… how much is enough for dating 7s?
I) Value
Value is divided in three parts:
1) Money
Most guys think this means how much money you earn but it actually refers to how much money you’re able to spend.
Girls don’t really understand money. They see it as fun coupons, and some men seem to be using a lot of them while others are holding on to theirs for dear life.
With this worldview, it’s no wonder why they think the bum paying everything with a credit card and accumulating generational debt is rich and the frugal guy with $1M in the bank is broke. Hence, the relevant part here is how much you’re able to spend.
In order to date 7s, you gotta be able to spend 1X the median cost of living in your country as a single man. In other words: nothing fancy, just be able to survive on your own without leeching off your parents. In Mexico city that would be about $1,300 USD/m, in NYC it would be about $5,000 USD/m, in the Midwest I think it’s half of that.
If you have a good degree you shouldn’t have much difficulty finding a job that pays that + a few savings (say, 20% post tax).
2) Looks
This is a combination of fitness, internal health and clothes.
On the fitness side, just don’t be too overweight. Being 20-25% body fat is enough and is not difficult by any means, although you should aim for reaching your ideal weight.
On internal health, get your 8 hours of sleep and eat healthy foods. Even if you’re 12% body fat, if you’re only eating candy your hair will look like shit, your skin will look like shit and your teeth will certainly look like shit. if you sleep 4 hours a day you’ll look like shit too. You want to get to a point where you seem “rested and healthy”, not like your life is going downhill.
On clothes, just use clothes that fit and don’t be weird. If you have to use L size, you have no business holding on to the M size, you’ll just look fatter and feel self-conscious. Also don’t use slim jeans or v-neck t-shirts if you’re not in your ideal weight. Despite what fashion gurus say, slim jeans and v-necks are quite difficult to pull off as a man, you’d need to be in shape. Think of them as the male equivalent of women using leggins: slim women look great in them, overweight women look awful in them.
3) Status
If you’re nailing the previous two areas, you’re good to go on the status side.
At this level you should only care about avoiding bad status: needing to leech off your parents, being “the fat one” of the group, being part of the majority of men who age like shit after graduating college due to poor sleep and eating habits, dressing with anime t-shirts, etc.
As long as you look “normal” you’ll do fine with 7s. Think of how back in junior high you just wanted to date a nice, normal girl: how did she looked like in your head? At least in mine, she looked cute and thin. She didn’t had big boobs, a nice ass, or anything spectacular… but also she wasn’t fat, that’s what I described as “normal”.
II) Game
This is the other half of the equation. Game is not manipulation, canned lines or deception, it’s just learned charisma. It’s being able to build rapport with a stranger, and that can 100% be done by being genuinely interested and finding common ground.
What do you need to aim for here?
Calibration. This means you don’t say socially awkward things most of the time and the only way to improve in this area is by practicing. You get out and talk to people and after many conversations you intuitively understand what people don’t want to hear about and what they can easily relate to.
In my case, I love telling complex jokes where you need to know 2-3 obscure references to really get it, the problem was that I used to tell these kind of jokes right off the bat and understandably most people thought I was weird. I now know that by asking tons of questions and doing simpler jokes first, I can find common ground where my more complex jokes will land.
Conclusion
As you can see, achieving these points (be self sufficient, not fat, look healthy, dress normal and not socially awkward) does not require huge amounts of effort.
Sure, you can learn how to speak 6 languages. You can become a master guitar player. You can get a PhD. All I’m saying is that you don’t NEED to in order to date 7s, you just need to cover the basics.
Actually, if you are lacking in the basics, even these extraordinary feats won’t help you.
New readers:
In my twitter account and on my blog I tell you what to do. In my books, I tell you how to do it:
My first book, “The Game of Casual Dating” is a guide that will teach you how to go from getting 0 girls to meeting, dating and sleeping with girls you find attractive by building a solid foundation of social skills. No rehearsed lines, no deceiving, no sketchy tricks. Just pure skill and female psychology knowledge. You can buy it Here.
My second book, “The Art of Building Highly Addictive Relationships” is a guide that will teach you which girls are worth keeping around and how to build relationships with them in which they can’t get enough of you. You can buy it Here.
My third book, “Guide to Date Latinas” will teach you how to meet, date and sleep with latinas, their psychology and specific quirks. It has all the insights you need to find latinas in your country, safely visit Latin America and relocating for the long-term if you choose to do so. You can get it Here.
“Introvert Game” is a guide that will help you attain a deeper understanding of your personality as an introvert and figuring out how to seduce women by playing to your strengths rather than trying to swim upstream using guides designed for extroverts. You can buy it Here.
If you’re ready to make a real change in your dating life, book a one-hour call with me Here