Thousands of men waste time with women who are not into them. Not by a long shot.
These girls will never openly admit they are not into you, they’ll always hint at the possibility of sex/a romantic relationship, yet it never comes… there’s always something in the way.
In this post we’ll look into how you can detect these time wasters:
How To Tell She’s Not Interested
She takes too much time to reply to your texts
You knew this one was coming. I’m not saying discard her completely if she isn’t glued to her phone, I’m talking about instances where the girl is clearly not following the conversation. i.e. takes half a day to send a “haha”. You can easily identify this when she never asks anything / never opens up a topic, it means she’s not chatting with you, she’s just replying to you.
That being said, it is true that many girls have ADD before and during the first 1-2 dates, so invest some effort (and patience) until she sees how high-value you are (remember: just a few days ago you were a literal stranger).
She makes up excuses more than 2 times when you ask her out
It is true that life gets in the way sometimes, but a girl who is interested will propose an alternative date to see you –she can’t risk you not asking her out again.
If she doesn’t propose an alternative date, I usually give girls the benefit of the doubt and ask her out 1-2 times more (I believe this trains me to assume the best in people –after years assuming the worst and seeing its consequences). This is because the girls who are less experienced / socially saavy usually don’t know they should propose an alternative date.
She’s too comfortable around you
There are two pillars of attraction: excitement and comfort. If you can’t make her feel any then she doesn’t care about you. If you only make her feel excitement you may sleep with her, but she’s not staying around. Actually if you go over the top with excitement you’ll scare her off quite easily.
Same case with comfort: it’s important to build comfort so she’ll stick around not feeling threatened, but too much comfort without excitement is boring.
If she could go out with you with 100% certainty that nothing would happen, it means there is 0 sexual tension between you two. She’s too comfortable around you.
She says she wants to go slow
If the girl you’re dating is a virgin, this is totally understandable. Understand that and don’t push, she’s literally acting how you want a high-value girl to act.
If she’s not a virgin (and you’re ok with dating such a girl) then it means you’re most likely a placeholder until she can monkey-branch her way to a guy who actually excites her. Make a move, if she rejects it, build more excitement and comfort and try again. If she rejects your advances 3 times she’s likely not into you. Better look elsewhere.
She talks to you with the “mom” voice
This is a tone of voice that sounds confident enough that you can tell she’s not nervous at all when interacting with you or around you, and is cool with taking all the decisions.
This is bad because women who look up to you find pleasure in “shutting off their brain” when you are around, that is, there’s no need for them to worry about anything because you got it handled. This means they don’t have to take on the leadership burden and are free to be their most playful self.
What does a mom do? she takes all the decisions because she thinks you’ll take the incorrect one if left to your own devices. On a girl who is not your mom this means she thinks you’re incompetent, which makes attraction an impossibility.
Announcement: The next miniguide I’ll add to “The Game of Casual Dating” will also be on the money section and will be called “How to get out of the hole”, the hole being a bad situation where you’re unemployed, in debt, etc. considering we’re in a downturn I think it’ll be very helpful. I’m trying to get it out by early October, free of course for anyone who has bought “The Game of Casual Dating”. Any suggestions on this miniguide or other ones you would like me to write about, DM me.
New readers:
My first book, “The Game of Casual Dating” is a guide that will teach you how to go from getting 0 girls to meeting, dating and sleeping with girls you find attractive by building a solid foundation of social skills. No rehearsed lines, no deceiving, no sketchy tricks. Just pure skill and female psychology knowledge. You can buy it Here.
My second book, “The Art of Building Highly Addictive Relationships” is a guide that will teach you which girls are worth keeping around and how to build relationships with them in which they can’t get enough of you. You can buy it Here.
“Introvert Game” is a guide that will help you attain a deeper understanding of your personality as an introvert and figuring out how to seduce women by playing to your strengths rather than trying to swim upstream using guides designed for extroverts. You can buy it Here.
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