Most men have miserable relationships because they don’t understand the role they took the moment they decided to have a girlfriend.
They let their girls manipulate them into spending more than they planned to and then get resentful when they don’t even say “thank you”. Sure, you don’t spoil her for applause, but a bit of gratitude shows you she’s not taking advantage of you, right?
The thing is that she sees no reason why she should say “thank you”. In her mind, she’s putting in the effort to fulfill the expectations of her role as a girlfriend, and any and all “gifts” you decide to give her, are a bonus on her performance.
This is where the disconnect happens: she assumes you’re a competent man who knows how to perfectly allocate his resources to cover all his needs and then any “extra” can be used to spoil her. But this isn’t the reality of most guys. The majority gets paid and once the gf puts on her pretty eyes and says she wants something, they burn through cash they can’t afford to spend.
The girl takes it as a bonus for a stellar performance and the guy keeps waiting for a “thank you” that will never come.
This will drive you insane if you don’t learn how to deal with it. This is why in this post we’ll look into how to do exactly that.
The Girlfriend Employer Theory
My proposal is that you see yourself as an employer and your girlfriend as your employee.
The position of “girlfriend” should be desired by many, this way if the current one is not performing according to your expectations, another one can come along quickly.
Employees are loyal to their employers as long as they’re getting what they need from them. If a better offer comes along, they’ll jump ship immediately and won’t look back. They expect financial security, protection and a career path.
Most employers are afraid of spending money on developing an employee because they fear they’ll get a better job once they have new abilities and they will have lost both the employee and the investment money, but fail to realize that by refusing to invest in talent development they are guaranteeing one of two possibilities: either the employee will seek a company that helps them develop, or the company will keep mediocre employees that haven’t learned anything new in years.
As the employer, you don’t get to demand financial security, you gotta figure out a way of giving that to yourself as well as to any employee of yours. You gotta set the direction and kick out any employee that doesn’t prove to be an asset.
Give nice bonuses to the employees that deserve them, don’t cave to salary hikes every 2 weeks or to requests like buying a new coffee machine just because. If one employee is not performing as expected, don’t be afraid of letting them go.
Be willing to invest in talent development and be prepared to lose them at any time if that’s what they choose to do. Sure, some may turn out to be ungrateful, but it’s the only way of finding the true diamonds in the rough that will stay loyal to you for the rest of their lives.
In my twitter account and on my blog I tell you what to do. In my books, I tell you how to do it:
My first book, “The Game of Casual Dating” is a guide that will teach you how to go from getting 0 girls to meeting, dating and sleeping with girls you find attractive by building a solid foundation of social skills. No rehearsed lines, no deceiving, no sketchy tricks. Just pure skill and female psychology knowledge. You can buy it Here.
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