The Pleasure of Consistency
The biggest pleasure you can get (as a man) derives from making something out of yourself.
This is something I’ve been thinking about lately thanks to Duolingo. I’m learning a 3rd language (Portuguese) and have been using the app daily for the past 4 months.
Weird thoughts started popping up once I crossed most of my contacts’ scores: They all went through a similar journey to the one I’m doing right now… until the point they decided to quit.
Now there’s only two contacts who have a higher score than me, and whereas I used to see them as normies, I’m now excited to interact with them. I keep thinking “they have experienced so much more than I have“, and to me that makes them incredibly interesting.
There are three reasons for this: 1) Scarcity. There’s only two of them out of all the people I know, 2) I can relate easily, and 3) You just know they’re the real deal.
Most people don’t fit these criteria because they stayed in the initial steps of the journey. They got a 5 day streak and suddenly on Saturday they went to a party, lost their streak and lost interest. They then moved on to the next hobby where they had an initial serotonin boost, found the first roadblock and jumped ship again. So on and so forth, never getting to experience depth.
This is not limited to the ups and downs in the world of language learning of course. Looking at my twitter account for example, I remember:
- The grind it was to get to 1k followers
- Seeing clear skies at 3k when I launched my first book
- The feeling of “mission accomplished” after crossing 10k
- Not believing my eyes when reaching 20k
- Grind again to get over 30k
And that rollercoaster is something most people will never get to experience. For some things, the journey IS the reward. I now get to look back at each of those milestones and feel true pride.
It’s the same for things like the gym: reaching your ideal weight, building muscle, reaching your ideal measures. Once you achieve some of these milestones, you see who is ahead of you and who got potential. You also see the talkers and all the unnecessary noise they make in order to impress people who know nothing about the topic.
This is how you achieve true inner peace. You get to give it your all and achieve milestones worthy to be proud of, while connecting with fellow men who are on the same path. Paraphrasing Jordan Peterson “What is our story if not the overcoming of our limitations?”
Application in Dating
This of course applies to dating too.
Phase 1: Cold Approach & Online Dating
You’ve probably read in other posts that I started learning game because I was sick of getting friendzoned. I started doing cold approach with one of my best friends (dared each other every time one wanted to chicken out) and also tried online dating.
That was all well and good for the first phase of this dating journey, it got me a rotation of 5s and a girlfriend who was a 6 (you can guess how socially inept I was prior to that). But of course, I didn’t wanted things to end there. The next phase came kinda by accident.
Phase 2: The Red Pill
I had a crush on a 25 yo girl (we had the same age) and although she was incredibly friendly via text messages and showed admiration towards me (I was socially inept, but career-wise I was quite accomplished by that age), once I asked her out she declined and a week later uploaded a photo embracing a guy in his mid 30s.
For me this was mind blowing: a young 8 drooling over an “old guy”? absolute madness. Or so I thought initially. The good part was that instead of hating on the guy, I told myself “I want what he has, I gotta learn from his example”
After this I googled “red pill” and got to the subreddit. I actually didn’t spent a lot of time there, I just downloaded the pdf from the side bar and read it, then I read Rollo Tomassi’s three books. I started taking the gym more seriously, I bought nice clothes, I got into skin care and started chiseling my jaw.
This understanding of intersexual dynamics and outer image self-improvement got me a rotation of 6s and then a girlfriend who was a 7. Not bad, but I kept going.
Phase 3: The Player Phase
Applying the theory was doing wonders for my dating life but in order to level up, I started learning more from twitter peers, analyzing my own mistakes, and lots of high-quality gumroad ebooks/courses.
Eventually I got a rotation of girls who are 7s and a girlfriend who is an 8. At this point it started resembling more art than science, but I’m confident I keep making good progress.
I’m actually thinking of writing a book on making this leap (from dating 7s to dating 8s) titled “The Game of Casual Dating 2: The Next Level”, but that’ll be a bit later this year. This area is specially tricky because this is hot AND beautiful girl territory, meaning that at any point they have the option of checking out of the game by accepting some guy’s life-long commitment.
There’s less room for mistakes, shorter attention spans and higher expectations for what is considered fun… but what kind of game would this be if the difficulty didn’t increased?
In my twitter account and on my blog I tell you what to do. In my books, I tell you how to do it:
My first book, “The Game of Casual Dating” is a guide that will teach you how to go from getting 0 girls to meeting, dating and sleeping with girls you find attractive by building a solid foundation of social skills. No rehearsed lines, no deceiving, no sketchy tricks. Just pure skill and female psychology knowledge. You can buy it Here.
My second book, “The Art of Building Highly Addictive Relationships” is a guide that will teach you which girls are worth keeping around and how to build relationships with them in which they can’t get enough of you. You can buy it Here.
My third book, “Guide to Date Latinas” will teach you how to meet, date and sleep with latinas, their psychology and specific quirks. It has all the insights you need to find latinas in your country, safely visit Latin America and relocating for the long-term if you choose to do so. You can get it Here.
“Introvert Game” is a guide that will help you attain a deeper understanding of your personality as an introvert and figuring out how to seduce women by playing to your strengths rather than trying to swim upstream using guides designed for extroverts. You can buy it Here.
If you’re ready to make a real change in your dating life, book a one-hour call with me Here