To put it simply, big dick energy is catnip for girls.
But this term has nothing to do with being genetically gifted, it’s the vibe certain men give off. When in the presence of a man like this, a girl just knows that if he picked her, she would be maximizing her hypergamy and in consequence, become the happiest girl in the world.
So how do you achieve big dick energy?
What is Big Dick Energy?
When girls say a man has “big dick energy” they’re talking about a man who’s confident he has what it takes to back up his claims. Previously I wrote that it’s like writing a $10k check knowing with full confidence that you got it in your bank account (link).
Since girls don’t think in terms of logic and explaining nuance but rather in terms of feels and vibes, when they experience something that makes them feel good, they explain it in these terms.
In this case, they experience the calm confidence of a competent man who is the real deal, which in girl lingo would be:
“He’s confident, but not loud douchebag confident, calm and quiet but not shy… you know like when a guy has a big dick so there’s no way he’s insecure… yeah that’s it! he has big dick energy!”.-Your average girl
A good example of this is Jason Momoa in the movie “Braven” (I recommend you watch at least the introduction). The guy seems so satisfied with life that there’s no way his wife would ever leave him. You can see how his daughter loves spending time with him. This is a guy who would never, never, NEVER get jealous or get cheated on.
How do you achieve Big Dick Energy?
This is not necessarily something you are born with but rather something you achieve. When you get the items below, you give yourself ample space to f*ck up, and by getting them without taking shortcuts or help, you are proving yourself you can get them again no matter how many times you lose them:
Money: Emergency Fund
If you want max benefit from this, aim for an emergency fund of 2 years. Remember that 1 month of an emergency fund means that is covers all your expenses for that month in case you get an income of $0.
2 years is certainly a high bar considering most people in the US can’t cover a $1,000 emergency expense and most personal finance blogs recommend just 3-6 months, but this is how you get maximum benefit from having an emergency fund.
Girls: A Rotation
Dating multiple girls prevents oneitis but it also gives you that IDGAF vibe that girls love so much.
Girls are naturally flaky and unstable, and a man who loves a girl too much tends to be naturally annoying. If for some reason she can’t available a certain day, she will 200% get repulsed by the man who makes a tantrum about her not wanting to see him.
She could have gotten diarrhea, or her mom had a serious argument with her dad, or she didn’t had enough $ to wax her legs… whatever happened, she isn’t available and it would be embarrassing to explain you why (she has to keep up the mystique so you won’t be grossed out by her…. be thankful she keeps the details to herself). This is why she expects you to don’t give a f*ck and simply make other plans.
This is about being able to back up your claims, and what better way to do so than achieving what most men only dream about?
Abs are usually not seen when wearing a shirt, so it’s the perfect way of attaining calm confidence: people who are not in the know may treat you badly, but you know what’s up.
Actually make it
Whatever your definition of “making it” is, there’s two periods in a man’s life: before making it and after making it.
You gotta be relentless in pursuing your path and when you have truly made it, you’ll be able to see just how many guys don’t make it. They waste too much time looking for shortcuts and hacks instead of just biting the bullet and putting in the work.
You can see that you’re different, you’re the real deal. And you can respond to whatever f*cked up curve ball life throws at you.
My first book, “The Game of Casual Dating” is a guide that will teach you how to go from getting 0 girls to meeting, dating and sleeping with girls you find attractive by building a solid foundation of social skills. No rehearsed lines, no deceiving, no sketchy tricks. Just pure skill and female psychology knowledge. You can buy it Here.
My second book, “The Art of Building Highly Addictive Relationships” is a guide that will teach you which girls are worth keeping around and how to build relationships with them in which they can’t get enough of you. You can buy it Here.
“Introvert Game” is a guide that will help you attain a deeper understanding of your personality as an introvert and figuring out how to seduce women by playing to your strengths rather than trying to swim upstream using guides designed for extroverts. You can buy it Here.
If you’re ready to make a real change in your dating life, book a one-hour call with me Here
Photo Credits: Christopher Czermak