It is well known that nerds get friendzoned A LOT, but have you ever wondered why?
Considering nerds have high IQs (which are mostly hereditary) and plenty of resources to provide their offspring the best chances of survival in the modern world, why do most young women take a pass on them?
Sure, 30+ yo single moms will actively try to trap nerds with money, but why is it that these women search for nerds only after they ruin their lives and not before?
Why Girls Don’t Like Nerds
Relatability
One reason for this is due to relatability. If you have 115+ IQ points, you’ve probably heard that it’s difficult for two people who are 2 standard deviations away (IQ points wise) to find common ground. The guy with 142 IQ wants to talk about a new research paper he just found and the guy with 69 IQ wants to keep laughing at a video of a guy getting hit with a baseball in his private parts.
As fate would have it, women’s IQs show little deviation from the middle of the IQ bell curve while most outliers are men (both to the downside and to the upside). Most homeless people are men and most billionaires are men.
This means that guys with high IQs really do have a difficult time finding common ground with most women because they’re naturally inclined to find interesting things that are not interesting to most women and vice-versa.
Bias for the future
Most high IQ men are able to think in second-order effects and the long-term consequences of their actions. Which is incredibly alien to girls.
Girls don’t just live for today, they live for right NOW.
Which, honestly makes sense. They have a very limited amount of time where they’re young, hot and fertile. They can’t wait around for you to build strong foundations and reap the rewards 10 years down the road.
They have a bias for men who live for today, which of course can be guys who already made it and now are just having their fun, but most of the times it’s guys living the credit card rich life, sacrificing tomorrow for feeling at the top of the world today. Of course, the bill always arrives eventually.
Dunning-Kruger Effect
This one is deadly.
Low IQ guys feel incredible confidence on their skills because they’re too stupid to realize they’re stupid. High IQ guys feel doubts regarding their skills because they’re smart enough to realize how much they don’t know.
Take a guess on which kind of guy women prefer. That’s right, since most women are around the middle of the IQ bell curve, they aren’t able to realize that the confidence these men feel is misplaced. They just conclude confident? must be a winner, I want him. Unconfident? must be a loser, avoid.
Advisor Role
This one is quite funny.
If you think about a king from old age, most of the times they were not the smartest guy in the room. They had advisors, and in order to land that role, they must have had very high IQs and expertise. Kings were simply born in their role.
In modern times, companies work in similar ways: the owner is probably not the smartest guy in the room since he has a board of advisors who are perfectionists in their area of expertise. The owner is not the one with the highest IQ, but he is the one taking the highest risk (all employees are getting paid whether whatever they sell sells or not, but the owner only gets paid if the product sells and there’s leftover profits after paying everyone)
This is how women view the future of a high IQ man: as an advisor.
Literally a Beta.
Too Cautious
If additionally to being high IQ a guy is also an introvert, he’s able to see threats that most people are not able to see.
While walking through tall grass on a prairie, most people would look out for lions and in their absence they would feel at ease. But the high IQ introvert has also considered snakes, moving sand, landmines, random holes on the floor… etc.
Yes, considering this is smart. But if nothing bad happens, girls will think of this guy as a p*ssy.
A Few Words of Advice… from a fellow high IQ guy
No doom and gloom here.
Dating is a skill and if you’re so smart then you’ll be able to figure it out. I’ve outsmarted each and every one of this limitations and I’m sure you can do it too. Because dating beautiful women is not something that is fundamentally denied to you, you just suck at this particular skill, the same way I did back when I started.
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