Back when I was a teenager, I was under the impression that in any relationship, the girlfriend was the prize, that is, the boyfriend (whoever it was) was lucky to date her.
I was wrong.
While it is true that girls hold more value than guys their same age during their late teens, by the end of their late twenties they’re pretty much stripped of it. Girls get 13 years (their peak years are 17-30) where they can use their youth for whatever purpose they want, the issue is that if by the time they’re 30 they’re still single, dating “up” becomes increasingly more difficult for them.
Girls got two variables to attract men: 1) how attractive they are (body, face, age) and 2) how pleasant their personality is (not annoying, not crazy, not a feminist, not jaded, not a redneck, feminine). Sadly, by 30 most girls both look terrible and are insufferable/jaded.
Compare this with men
Unless we are athletes or musician outliers, we are invisible throughout our teens and early 20s. After graduation, inclusion quotas actively work to reduce men in the workforce in favor of women even if the male candidate is more qualified. Nobody gives a F about your feelings. Actually, nobody gives a F about you overall if you don’t have a talent or some sort of way to add value.
But, if you are able to crawl out of this hole (which you’ll have to do by yourself, no hand holding) it’ll put you into the category of top 20% of men, defined here as:
- Having *at least* a white collar job (ideally a side hustle/business running too, you can spend at least the average household income of the country you live in and save 50% of your income)
- Being in your ideal weight
- Have slept with at least one 7 using game
This of course takes time if you were born poor, have always been overweight and with awful social skills, but by the time you turn 27 all these should already be fixed.
These men are at the top of the social hierarchy. Picture it like this:
Top 20% of men > Top 80% of women > Bottom 80% of men > Bottom 20% of women.
that is, the bottom 20% of women are not attractive to the bottom 80% of guys. The bottom 80% of guys simp for the top 80% of women, and the top 80% of women compete for the top 20% of men. What do the top 20% men do? they are focused on crushing it in life and enjoying the best women.
Since women can’t sincerely love a man who is beneath them, they are left competing for the top 20%.
Men’s value is more diversified:
- Looks: nobody beats father time. Nobody. But a well maintained older man is attractive to many (many) girls, and the reverse (an older woman) is not attractive to most guys. I’ve read all kinds of reasons – some say that it’s because a man who has lived longer has literally proved himself as capable of surviving, others say that many girls have daddy issues, others that it’s because white hair adds character… I don’t know, I’m not a girl but the point is that women are more tolerant of declining looks in a man.
- Money: If a man’s looks drop to zero (out of shape, ugly) he can still provide a good life for a girl and their sons/daughters. Most couples end up marrying because the girl is at least somewhat hot and because the guy makes at least somewhat decent money, and in this scenario the girl’s beauty lasts ~10 years and the man supports her financially for 40-60 years. Who got the better deal?
- Status: ever heard women are addicted to attention and power? imagine how much attention and power a politician gets, or a CEO.
- Game: this would be the equivalent to pleasing personality, something that doesn’t fade but can erode if jaded.
So, top men’s looks go up through their late 20s and early 30s (peaking at 35) and all other areas usually go up too, so dating becomes easier as we age.
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