There’s a simple reason why men don’t get the results they want despite putting in all their effort.
In this post we’ll look into what that reason is.
Why you’re not getting results with girls
Simply put, you’re not getting results with girls because you’re not doing what works.
Many men do what they *wished* would work with girls and eventually get a reality check in the form of a rejection, the friendzone or getting cheated on.
“Doing what works” is likely the single most important lesson you can ever learn in your life. It’s not just about girls, this is how you get results in any area of life.
Getting results with your health
Let’s take this example because it’s the easiest to explain.
If you wanted to burn some excess fat you know that eating a whole bag of cheetos while watching netflix is not gonna help. Everyone knows this is harmful. This is level 1.
Level 2 is taking action *in a wrong way*. This is either due to ignorance or wishful thinking. In our burning fat example, doing lots of cardio with no strength training and not minding your diet is simply inefficient. You want cardio to be enough, but it’s not enough.
Level 3 would be doing strength training with a good diet. This is what works for burning fat. You hating dieting and preferring cardio over strength training doesn’t matter. If you want results this is how you achieve them.
Getting results in Business
I learned this lesson while reading “The E-myth: why most small businesses don’t work and what to do about it“.
The summary of why most small businesses don’t work is that most people who start a business for the first time want to “follow their passion”. They realize they hate working a 9-5, remember they love cooking pies, so they start selling pies thinking they’ll ride into the sunset earning money doing what they love.
This is level 2 thinking again. Reality hits and they realize the enormous amount of things they need to take care of: Selling enough to be profitable, doing taxes, advertising, PR, constituting a legal entity, customer service… none of this has anything to do with cooking pies. Soon they’re working 14 hours shifts 7 days a week with no certainty of a paycheck by the end of the week.
They want to follow their passion, but this is not how you achieve results.
Getting results with girls
The same thing happens when trying to seduce girls.
The majority of guys try to get in a girl’s pants by being good to her. They want her to look past any strength or achievement shortcomings and fall in love with the goodness of his heart.
Listen to me: that shit will NEVER happen. This is level 2 thinking again.
Why it doesn’t work? well, you have the answer yourself: if you want a girl with a pleasant personality, who is 100% loyal, cooks amazing and is head over heels in love with you, would you fall in love with a girl who has all that but is morbidly obese and ugly AF?
Of course you wouldn’t, don’t lie to yourself. You, like every other human on this planet, want either the finished product or something that shows potential.
So what is level 3 thinking when it comes to girls? what actually works?
Well, that is exactly what I discuss in my book: The Game of Casual Dating
My first book, “The Game of Casual Dating” is a guide that will teach you how to go from getting 0 girls to meeting, dating and sleeping with girls you find attractive by building a solid foundation of social skills. No rehearsed lines, no deceiving, no sketchy tricks. Just pure skill and female psychology knowledge. You can buy it Here.
My second book, “The Art of Building Highly Addictive Relationships” is a guide that will teach you which girls are worth keeping around and how to build relationships with them in which they can’t get enough of you. You can buy it Here.
“Introvert Game” is a guide that will help you attain a deeper understanding of your personality as an introvert and figuring out how to seduce women by playing to your strengths rather than trying to swim upstream using guides designed for extroverts. You can buy it Here.
If you’re ready to make a real change in your dating life, book a one-hour call with me Here
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