Earlier this week I shared this tweet: “Women don’t love *you* They love what you *are*. The hot guy with abs, The bad boy that has me hooked, The millionaire that can take me anywhere in the world, The manager of my office. Who are you going to be?”.
When a guy talks to his friends about a girl he just met, the first question he’s gonna get is “is she hot?”. When a girl talks to her friends about a guy she just met, the first question she’s gonna get is “what does he do?”
The message is pretty clear: men have no intrinsic value whatsoever. Unlike women, who can bear children (literally ensuring the survival of our species), we men have to make something out of ourselves or we become irrelevant.
Which bears the question: are girls capable of truly loving *you*? or do they just love what you provide?
Are Girls Capable Of Loving You?
Most guys (who have no interest in learning game) live by the phrase “I want her to like me for me, not for my money (or status/looks)”.
Ignoring the fact that 80% of them don’t have any of the three, what are they really saying?
Well, what they mean is that they want to keep the girl even if they drop the performance as a man, which is no different from a woman who stays thin until she gets the ring and then lets herself gain 50 pounds.
But upon closer inspection, aren’t they saying that they want the girl to like them for how good their game is?
If you don’t want her to like you for your money, status or looks, what else is there for her to like you for? your personality of course! And what is learning game if not the development of your personality with the intention of being more attractive to the opposite sex?
So, in a way, girls ARE capable of loving you if by that you mean that they enjoy the emotions you make them feel thanks to your game.
You don’t have to restrict yourself like that though. Girls can be attracted to you by a wide variety of things but the unbreakable rule is that they have to love you for something, otherwise they would just start loving the first guy they meet, rejection would not exist and 99% of men would have no reason to improve themselves, since they already have unconditional love.
Since that is not the world we live in, my question for you is: why would a girl love you?, in other words, what is the thing that she finds attractive about you that compels her to stick around? who are YOU?
You could become the manager of your office and a lot of girls would love you for that, but if you get laid off, they would stop loving you. They loved your higher status, not you, because you are not A manager, you were THE manager of your office.
Things would change if your success was repeated: you were the manager of your office, got laid off and then you got hired again as a manager for a different company. At this point things change because now you are a manager, regardless of the organization you are currently managing, because if for some reason you get laid off, you can always get hired as a manager somewhere else and retain that higher status essentially forever.
This is because it was not a once in a lifetime thing that you can always lose due to bad luck, you became a manager and are currently pursuing that abstract skill/path, which means nobody can take it from you anymore. You’ll just have good luck months and bad luck months, but you don’t stop being what you are.
And of course you can be multiple things. The manager who is also a gym rat is waaay more interesting that the typical manager. Think about what this means. The typical manager is a fat office drone and the typical gym rat is a broke meat head. If you’re both you just killed any negative bias people may have about both roles.
Now you’re not a manager or a gym rat, you’re a “disciplined man”. Add to that good social skills and you just killed the “he’s probably boring tho” negative bias and you’re now described as “an amazing man”. Add artistic hobbies, multiple international trips, a 3rd language, etc.
All of these encompass who you are.
That’s what girls fall in love with.
In my twitter account and on my blog I tell you what to do. In my books, I tell you how to do it:
My first book, “The Game of Casual Dating” is a guide that will teach you how to go from getting 0 girls to meeting, dating and sleeping with girls you find attractive by building a solid foundation of social skills. No rehearsed lines, no deceiving, no sketchy tricks. Just pure skill and female psychology knowledge. You can buy it Here.
My second book, “The Art of Building Highly Addictive Relationships” is a guide that will teach you which girls are worth keeping around and how to build relationships with them in which they can’t get enough of you. You can buy it Here.
My third book, “Guide to Date Latinas” will teach you how to meet, date and sleep with latinas, their psychology and specific quirks. It has all the insights you need to find latinas in your country, safely visit Latin America and relocating for the long-term if you choose to do so. You can get it Here.
“Introvert Game” is a guide that will help you attain a deeper understanding of your personality as an introvert and figuring out how to seduce women by playing to your strengths rather than trying to swim upstream using guides designed for extroverts. You can buy it Here.
If you’re ready to make a real change in your dating life, book a one-hour call with me Here