When it comes to dating, an abundance mindset is the notion that you can generate options for yourself, since there is a huge amount of women out there and there’s nothing stopping you from talking to each and every one of them
Of course, not every girl will fall for you but any one of them very well could, its just a matter of finding out who
The opposite of an abundance mindset of course is a scarcity mindset: the notion that there’s maybe one girl for you and that no other girl will ever understand you or even like you. Of course this is not the case, but I know from first hand experience how daunting can a scarcity mindset be.
Sadly, attaining an abundance mindset is not as easy as rationalizing that there is indeed a huge amount of women out there and that any one of them could be your future girlfriend.
Fortunately, it’s not that hard either. Basically it comes down to seeing yourself succeed with girls repeatedly. Once you see yourself get shot down by say, 9 girls and then the 10th girl agrees to go on a date with you, you’ll realize that being rejected by the other 9 girls doesn’t matter, you still got a date.
My advice on how to get your first wins? go for the low hanging fruit.
Nobody likes this advice, I know. But it works. And it made sense when I first started: if I’m not good at picking up women, I should lower the difficulty level as much as possible so that I can see the whole process once. Kinda like reverse engineering something and removing all nuance so you can see it work in perfect conditions and then you start adding layers of difficulty and exceptions on top of it iteratively.
Repeat this enough times and what you’ll notice is that your biggest limitation becomes time. You can’t juggle an infinite number of girls, I tried to juggle 5 at some point and I just couldn’t keep up with each girl and my work/studies. So as you become aware of how much time commitment each girl needs, you’ll start to value your time more, which will naturally make you come across as high value, opening the doors to hotter girls each time
It is at this point where you suddenly pause and realize that, indeed, any girl you see walking on the street is a whole new world, and that indeed, there’s a whole lot of them.
New Readers: If you’re just starting your journey, you should read Live Intentionally: Discipline, Mindset, Direction – A 90 Day Self-Project. The basis of attracting beautiful women is becoming a high value man and you can’t become one if you’re full of bad habits. Live Intentionally teaches you exactly how to weed them out and become the best version of yourself. This is the first step towards a life of abundance, your foundation.
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