The most important part of any date with a new girl is when you initiate physical contact. If she rejects it it means she probably doesn’t feel attraction for you, if she accepts it it means she feels attraction for you, if you don’t initiate physical contact you’ll stay wondering if she likes you or not.
That being said, if you just walk up to her and grab her hand you’ll probably get a harsh rejection. You gotta be smooth, remember girls like to enjoy the ride (while you do all the work, amirite?) and in this post I’ll describe the methods I’ve used that have worked for me.
Learn a magic trick that involves your hands and randomly show it to her while on your car or some place where you’re alone. Mine is quite good:
- Put a hair tie surrounding your index and middle finger (doesn’t matter which hand, better if it’s her hair tie, many girls carry one in their wrists)
- Pull the hair tie with your other hand and introduce all 4 fingers and your hand will look like a closed fist (obviously, without her seeing you because this is the secret, just banter about something to distract her)
- Now when you open your hand the hair tie will pass from your index and middle finger to your ring and pinky finger. If you pass your left hand over your right hand in a quick motion, it will look like magic: the hair tie teleported from these two fingers to the other two fingers!
- You can show off a few more times and if you choose to, you can teach her. This requires you to touch her hands.
High fives + Thumb Wars
I did this after taking a girl bowling, basically whenever we had a good shot I made the high five and after I won all the games of the night, in my car I said “Ok, one last game” and played thumb wars with her. I lost on purpose and started teasing her that she probably cheated. Bonus points if you can maintain eye contact and a smirk, ideal scenario for a first kiss with fun vibes.
Let me see your nails
This one was recommended by some followers, basically just grab her hand and start looking at her nails or tell her to show you. This one had an adverse effect the time I used it, because the girl got embarrassed that she hadn’t painted her nails but not every girl will do that.
Size of shoes, size of hands
In bowling you usually have to use the shoes they give you, so it’s a good moment to compare foot sizes, which conducts to comparing hand sizes.
The most obvious of all: dancing
If you’ve ever gone to a salsa social (an event where people go to dance salsa) you know that you can basically approach anybody and most of them will accept to dance with you. All girls love dancing, and if you take a girl to a salsa social, you’ll touch her. A lot.
Actually, my signature move to start physical contact involves a bit of knowledge in salsa dancing, if you would like to see a detailed description, it is included in Chapter 4 of The Game Of Casual Dating
“I’ve never seen it that way before”
This one is powerful. While you’re walking, and notice her hand and your accidentally touch several times, you should grab her hand. You can do it just like that and it’s fine, but a powerful way to do so is to wait until she says something insightful and you respond with “That’s true, I’ve never seen it that way before” and grab her hand. The way you should think about this is that she feels validated by your words and also that by grabbing her hand you’re allowing the world to see you with her, as in, she’s worthy of being your girl.
New Readers: my eBook “The Game of Casual Dating: Social Skills to Meet and Date Beautiful Women” is a guide that will teach you how to go from getting 0 girls to meeting, dating and sleeping with girls you find attractive by building a solid foundation of social skills. No rehearsed lines, no deceiving, no sketchy tricks. Just pure skill and female psychology knowledge.
Photo Credits: Toa Heftiba