After you turn 27, you start hearing this phrase from girls with your same age quite frequently.
“I want a man who has goals”. One would understandably assume that they mean they want a man who is putting the work to get ahead in life: get a promotion, get a masters degree, launch a business, become financially free.
But this is not the case.
What Women Mean When They Say They Want A Man Who Has Goals
What women mean when they say this is … *drumroll* that they want a man who is ready to settle down.
Yeah… I know guys who made the right decisions through their lives thought “f*cking finally, girls matured enough to see the value in a man who is smart, talented and works his ass off instead of getting wooed by brutes with huge biceps” but as I said, this is not the case.
While it is true that girls have a dualistic mating strategy (Get pregnant with the alpha’s seed, raise the kid with the beta’s resources) this doesn’t mean their preferences change over time. Yes, they recognize swag doesn’t pay the bills but they still want to live for today, party and feel the whole range of emotions. The necessity of money is nothing more than a hurdle to fix.
In an ideal scenario, the exciting alpha earns enough to cover for all expenses and wants to stick around. This is the Valhalla of womanhood. Sadly this is not the case most of the times, as most women end up marrying a beta who has enough spending capacity to provide for a family. Childbirth is, at the end of the day, their one true mission on earth.
You may have noticed that the previous paragraph talks about women’s expectations only in regards to spending. This is because this is the only relationship they have with money. If you make $100k/yr she honestly believes you spend $100k/yr.
Taxes? Savings? Investments? sounds like nerd talk to me -average woman
Getting a promotion, getting a masters degree, launching a business, literally becoming financially free… these are not real goals according to women. When they say they want “a man who has goals” they mean they want a man who is ready to settle down and build a family with her.
The only goals she’s interested in you having is 1) buying a ring, 2) buying a house and maybe down the line 3) you becoming a manager so you have more money to spend and “power” over your subordinates (which turns her on).
As always, don’t let girls dictate the direction of your life. Remember that your path is more important than her needs. If you both are ~27 and she starts bitching about when you’re gonna buy a ring and a house while you’re putting in your best efforts to get ahead in life, you would do well to remember that you have no business being together.
She needs a man who already made it and is looking forward to building a family for the next stage of his life, while you need freedom to maneuver and eventually make it.
In my twitter account and on my blog I tell you what to do. In my books, I tell you how to do it:
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