Ever heard a girl saying “I hate my ex, he was a narcissist.”?
Only all the time. Seems like every girl out there has dated a narcissist, and yet narcissism is present only in a small part of the male population.
Could it be that this handful of guys have something girls deeply crave for?
Let’s see what’s going on.
Why Girls Love Narcissists
The reason why girls love narcissists is quite simple: they have irrational self-confidence.
Girls are attracted to self-confidence because it’s an indicator of competence, abundance and power, everything a woman wants in a man because it offers her the best chance of survival in this big, scary world.
Men work in a similar way: we look for fertile women to ensure the continuity of our species but nobody says “look at that girl, I’m sure she has optimal fertility levels and her eggs would produce healthy and strong offsping”, no, we are attracted to youth, beauty, big butts, big breasts and small waists, all these are indicators of fertility.
A woman who possesses the opposite traits (old, ugly, big waist) is indirectly communicating to us that she’s not what we’re looking for. The same way, a man who lacks confidence is communicating that he doesn’t possess what women are looking for.
Or at least that’s what would happen in an objective, logic-oriented world. The thing here is that since girl-world is ruled by perception, not reality, self-confidence can be delusional.
Something I remember from the book Pimp: the story of my life by Iceberg Slim is when Iceberg Slim seduces a girl by telling her he was impressed by how lucky she was for crossing paths with him, but also how smart of her to take a winning lottery ticket when she saw one (him).
He then said something along the lines of: “Now that you’re my woman, you don’t have to fear anything, worry about anything, there is not one problem I can’t solve and there is not one question I can’t answer. My wits will make us millionaires.”
By the end of the book you realize that Iceberg Slim’s life turned out to be a mess, and that girl was foolish to believe him that day. But this illustrates my point: self-confidence is nothing more than an attitude, it’s not real and tangible like a girl’s hotness, it’s all in how you perceive yourself.
And in the case of narcissists, their levels of self-confidence are off the charts.
That’s why women love them: they perceive narcissists as men with off the charts levels of competence, abundance and power.
Why Women Stop Loving Narcissists
Narcissists have a natural tendency for BPD . This means throwing a tantrum or becoming verbally (or even physically) abusive when things don’t go their way.
Think of Anakin in Star Wars 2 & 3 when he’s ruled by emotion rather than by logic: he makes a mess and regrets it afterward. Another example would be Homelander from The Boys whenever he snaps.
As attractive as irrational self-confidence is to women, no one will tolerate abuse indefinitely. It’s the same as men leaving hot girls because they’re too much of a drama queen: it gets tiring.
The lust is always there though, you just know that you can’t stand them over the long term.
What To Do With This Information
Mimic the good parts of narcissism:
- High conviction in one-self
- Rock-solid frame
- Easy to set and enforce boundaries
If you’re able to tap into this power without suffering its downsides, you’ll be drowning in a sea of p*ssy in no time.
In my twitter account and on my blog I tell you what to do. In my books, I tell you how to do it:
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