“Men can’t go back on attractiveness, Women can’t go back on lifestyle” this phrase summarizes the expectations of both genders when considering a long-term relationship.
As a man, if you routinely sleep with 7s and have to put in a bit more effort to sleep with 8s, you’re not gonna be taking shit from a 6 or lower. If you have some free time and no other leads, you maaay tell the 6 to come over (to f*ck), but you’re definitely not gonna use a whole evening to take her out for dinner and jump through hoops for one good night kiss at the end of the date. You’re scratching an itch, not considering her for the long-term.
In the same manner, a girl whose last boyfriend picked her up in a car for every date, paid for everything and had his own place, won’t stick with a man with whom she has to take the bus, pay 50% of the restaurant bill and hide from his mom. She may temporarily lower her standards (like the man in the paragraph above) if she’s in need of some male attention, but over the long-term she’s not gonna stay there.
In both cases the person knows they can get a better deal for what they’re offering.
With this in mind, I have created a list of what kind of lifestyle girls typically get once they’re married, according to their attractiveness level. Use it to determine what kind of girl you can get according to what you’re offering:
Girls who are 6s have an ugly face, a flat chest and a flat ass, but at least they’re thin. That’s the real difference with 5s and below (fat girls).
The kind of man these girls can keep for the long-term is a moderately successful blue-collar employee, meaning no college degree and no real negatives like drug addiction or alcoholism.
The lifestyle they can get is usually lower-middle class: 50% good 50% bad neighborhood, vacations near the city if any, old car, need to get in debt for any major purchase.
Girls who are 5s and lower usually have to deal with this but also with negatives like the guy is addicted to alcohol so instead of buying this week’s groceries he spent it all on beer because he was feeling down.
Girls who are 7s have either a pretty face and a thin body (flat chest, flat ass), or an ugly face and a hot body (big boobs, big ass, thin waist obviously).
The kind of man these girls can keep for the long-term is an unremarkable white-collar employee, that is, a guy who has a college degree and works in an office but earns about 1X the median household income from his country, which is enough to live by himself but not enough to take care of a family. In the US this would be about $50k a year.
The lifestyle they can get is usually somewhere in between lower-middle class and upper middle class, tight discretionary spending budget, cars bought with debt so need to make monthly payments, one national vacation per year, usually one or zero children.
For these girls, investing in their career is a good move because they’re forced to pay 50% of all expenses if they want to stay in the upper end of the middle class. If the guy paid 100% of the expenses they would be able to afford a lower middle class lifestyle instead, so it’s in their best interest to become as professionally successful as they possibly can since they can’t rely on the guy.
Girls who are 8s have both a beautiful face and a hot body.
The kind of man these girls can keep for the long-term is an accomplished white-collar employee, that is, a guy who earns ~3X the median household income of his country and can pay 100% of a family’s expenses. This would be $150k+ in the US.
The lifestyle they can get is usually that of a SAHM (stay at home mom), upper-middle class neighborhood, one international trip a year, multiple national trips, multiple children, private schools, nice clothes, nice cars, nice restaurant dates.
The biggest improvement is not needing to work a 9-5. This is huge because having a full-time mom is, sadly, a luxury for kids in modern times.
Girls who are 9s are so attractive that they can live off their looks.
The kind of man these girls can keep for the long-term is a successful business man, an athlete or a famous public figure (politician, actor). As you can see, this is where the divide between normal and extraordinary occurs.
The lifestyle they can get is the dream of every girl: everything the 8s get + upper class neighborhood, multiple international trips a year, multiple children, nanny, chef, cleaning lady, private tutors, large discretionary spending, etc.
The problem with girls being unable to go back in lifestyle is that they don’t seem to understand that the guy who calls them to come over (to f*ck) is not the kind of man they can get, the man who commits to them is the kind of man they can get.
The former just wants to scratch an itch, the latter is willing to stick around.
Girls get confused by this and hold out for a guy who can give them the lifestyle of an 8 while being a 6 just because they slept with a guy like that once and end up as spinster cat ladies making outrageous demands on their dating app bios.
Paying a Premium for Youth
The lifestyle described in the list above is easily attainable for girls, according to their attractiveness level, even if they wait until their late 20s or early 30s which is when most consider settling down.
But there’s one scenario where a girl can get the lifestyle of a girl who is one whole SMV point higher than her: by seeking commitment in her early 20s.
I have seen many cases where a girl who is a 7 gets the lifestyle of an 8 and an 8 gets the lifestyle of a 9 and they all loosely share the same pattern: they date to marry in their early 20s with guys who are in their late 20s or older, and by the time the girls are 25/26 they’re already married and living a lifestyle that other girls who are as attractive as them are not getting.
It seems that most men are ok with paying a premium for youth, meaning that a successful business man who could date 9s who are 2-3 years younger than him is ok with dating an 8 who is 7-10 years younger than him.
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